5 Keys to Unlocking God’s Purpose for Your Life




Most women imagine what life will be like when they’re young. They dream of getting married, having a family, making a difference in the world. 

So, what does it mean when one or more of those opportunities doesn’t present itself?

I don’t have children. That wasn’t the plan twenty four years ago when my ex-husband and I got married.  In fact, I had it all figured out. I was going to have four children, be a stay-at-home wife who worked part-time and homeschooled.

Then I lost my first pregnancy. Two years later I lost another. Attempts to adopt a child never came to fruition. My life took a very different path than I’d expected.

Wasn’t it my purpose in life to be a mother? Did I fail to fulfill my purpose?

Do you think your purpose has passed you by?

Do you believe you’re failing to fulfill your purpose?

Are you confusing your roles with God’s purpose for your life?

A role is simply a part you play within a greater whole: within your family, at work, in your church or community, etc.  Each role you have—sister, daughter, mother, wife, employee, friend, boss, team leader, volunteer—is essential to the overall functioning of the greater unit. 

However, some roles that you’ve dreamt of may never come to be, for whatever reason. 

That doesn’t mean, though, that your life doesn’t have meaning or purpose!

Your roles change as time goes by, as does your function, your job description, within those roles. 

Your purpose never changes.

God’s divine purpose for you is about why you do what you do

Before you can truly understand your role(s) or how to function within it, you need to know the ultimate goal behind your efforts; your purpose for doing what you do.

Your purpose—God’s purpose—gives you direction. His purpose gives your roles meaning. Your roles, then, become the way you fulfill that purpose.

Sometimes we get hung up on the wrong thing. We wish we had different roles or different functions within those roles. Instead, we ought to use whatever roles we currently have to live out God’s purpose for us right now.

What about you? Are you living a life of regret because you have unfulfilled expectations?  Have you put your life “on hold,” waiting for a certain role to come your way so that you can finally fulfill your God-given purpose?

 A life filled with regret and disappointment is not the intentional, God-infused life you were designed to have.

Knowing God’s purpose for you takes time

So, how do you know that purpose?

Unlocking the mystery behind God’s intentions for you isn’t that hard, if you have the right keys. 

 Key #1: Ask Him

Sounds simple. Tell God what you want, ask Him what He wants for you, and ask Him to align what you want with what He wants. And presto, He reveals His specific purpose for you!!

Not exactly.

The first step is to ask. It does involve talking to God about what you want, about what He wants. It also involves waiting. And asking again…and again…and again.

Don’t ask God to reveal His divine purpose for you by making demands. Rather, ask because in doing so, you are building a relationship with Him. That relationship is essential to understanding what He wants for you. 

That doesn’t mean, however, that you will be given answers right away, or all at once. God’s timing is different; His thoughts and ways are higher, bigger. 

“For My thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways My ways,” says the Lord. “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways, and My thoughts than your thoughts.” (Isaiah 55:8-9)

He knows what He’s doing and He is listening.  So ask.

Key #2:  Listen to Him

You know that friend that just chatters on incessantly, never stopping to give you a moment to talk?

Don’t be that person with God!

God has a lot to say to you. What He has to say is hugely important and will make a positive difference in your life, if you just stop and listen.

That means, of course, searching His Word often to see what He wants to reveal.  It means listening to that still, small voice that God sometimes uses to guide and direct you. The more you read, coupled with asking for understanding about what you’re reading, the more you will understand what God wants for your life.

Don’t assume, however, that everything that happens is a “sign” from God.  He doesn’t micro-manage your life.  You have free will to make choices, to make mistakes, to learn from those mistakes.  Not every good, or bad, thing that happens in your life is the direct result of God sending you some important newsflash. Some things happen because of time and chance (Ecclesiastes 9:11).  Some things happen because other people’s mistakes impact us.  Consequences happen because we make bad choices…or good ones.  Doors open, doors shut.  God does, however, use everything to ultimately work out His purpose in your life. 

Key #3:  Obey Him

Having a relationship with God is wonderful, life-changing. But, as you build that relationship with Him, and learn what He has to say, you will come to realize that He has expectations for how He wants you to live.

Follow them.

Being obedient to God means recognizing that He has authority over your life. He has the right to expect things of you, the right to require you to follow Him.

Those expectations—His benevolent laws for individuals and society—are there for your benefit. They’re not intended to restrict your happiness.

God’s laws don’t diminish happiness, they increase it

You may not understand the why behind all His laws right now.

Follow them anyway.

Don’t make excuses or justifications; just do what He says. Understanding the why comes from being obedient. 

Key #4:  Surrender to Him

When you were young your parents had rules. Rules that sometimes chafed as you resisted. Why?

Because we don’t always like being told what to do

As a child you may have thought you knew better than your parents…until you grew up and realized how little you actually did know!

Only then could you fully appreciate the reasons behind the rules. Your parents were trying to protect you. Their rules were a hedge of protection around you, keeping you from situations and people that might cause harm in life-changing ways. Their rules weren’t a form of punishment; they were an act of love.

Your Heavenly Father is the same way. He knows what you need. He wants to protect you—from yourself, from societal dangers, from satanic influences. Obedience leads to blessings beyond comprehension (Deuteronomy 28:1-14). Disobedience leads to heartache, turmoil, danger and, ultimately, death (Romans 6:23).

There is purpose in everything God does, and His purpose is the only path that will lead you to ultimate happiness

 Over time your understanding of why God has rules for you will grow. 

Your spiritual maturity will grow.

Your desire to obey Him will grow. 

Surrendering to God means trusting fully that, no matter how difficult or painful, what He asks of you is always in your best interest. 

“And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.” (Romans 8:28)

Key #5:  Live for Him

Have you ever considered what God gave up so that you could have a relationship with Him?  “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)

You belong to God, and that’s good news. That’s great news.

In fact, no one wants more for you than God. He has an amazing future waiting for you.

In the meantime, however, your life is His. So His will for you is the ONLY thing that matters. 

However, that can be hard for you and me to accept. 

You’re hard-wired as a human to resist God’s will (Romans 8:7), to want to do your own thing. 

Living for God means choosing to dedicate your life to Him, seeking His will for you and then following it. If you make your whole life about growing in the grace and knowledge of Him and His Word, about serving others rather than yourself…then you will be living His divine purpose for you, every day. 

That’s what A Christian Woman’s Guide to Intentional Living is all about—helping you to align God’s purpose for you with your everyday intentions. It’s about understanding the difference between your roles and your purpose, and how to live out your purpose through those roles.  Get started now.



  1. Michelle Rickard on April 5, 2019 at 2:03 am

    You are doing a great job. Thank you!

    • Debbie Pierce on April 5, 2019 at 3:04 am

      Michelle, thank you so much!!

  2. Laura Anderson on April 5, 2019 at 2:58 pm

    I love the encouraging tone of your writing. It is like balm for my weary soul. Keep on using the gifts God has given you! Thank you for sharing your heart with us.

    • Debbie Pierce on April 5, 2019 at 3:23 pm

      Thank you Laura! Your words are encouragement for ME!

  3. Louise BJ Massalley on October 31, 2021 at 7:42 am

    These keys are very powerful. God bless and give you more wisdom

  4. Martha Akoje on April 10, 2022 at 2:53 am

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts and the knowledge of God,s world .it brings me strength and understanding of how to fulfill purpose of God for my life.

    • Debbie Caudle on April 10, 2022 at 2:31 pm

      Thank you Martha, I’m glad it was useful for you!

  5. Alexis Biscoe on December 6, 2022 at 3:53 am

    Thanks so much this was very helpful for me. I’m trying to understand and figure out my propose in life.

    • Debbie Caudle on December 6, 2022 at 1:59 pm

      Thanks Alexis!

  6. Debbie Caudle on December 19, 2022 at 11:07 pm

    Thanks Marriam, glad you found it helpful!

  7. Beatrice Wayeta on January 4, 2023 at 8:05 am

    Thank you it was very directional.

    • Debbie Caudle on January 4, 2023 at 3:53 pm

      Glad it was helpful!

  8. Wilson on June 7, 2023 at 9:46 pm

    Hey. I will say. Trust in him and do what you love to do in his accord. Read the Bible and talk to him. Ask him for anything. Read Ecclesiastes 3 and know something things. I’m on my purpose and I keep getting better. He is so superb. You will be surprised with yourself on his purpose.

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