Six Reasons Why You Need God

 

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Little girls need their father. So do big girls. Not all fathers are equal though.

As dads go, mine was a good one. He played with me. He taught me important lessons. And he didn’t pump me up with false flattery or set me up with unrealistic expectations of life.

He prepared me. Dad taught me to face challenges by putting me in situations that weren’t always easy or comfortable. He pushed me out of my familiar, safe environment and gave me survival skills.

It wasn’t convenient or easy. I am the woman today because my dad taught me to be strong, confident and brave. He gave me the inner fortitude to push through when things get tough.

He’s not perfect though. No physical father is.

Not all girls are so lucky. Some grow up with dads who didn’t teach them anything. Some grow up with no dad at all.

Dads matter. And having a lousy dad or no dad at all shapes a woman in a myriad of ways.

Is God really a good Father?

If you could create the ideal Father/Daughter relationship, what would it look like? Would he be your best friend, the one you go to with your most difficult problems? The one who always listens perfectly, comforts you and then gently guides you to see what you need to see, so that you can make changes that will help you grow?

Your Heavenly Father wants to know you…and for you to know Him.

There is one Father who is perfect in all ways—your Heavenly Father. He loves you more than you can possibly know. He wants the very best for you, and He wants a close relationship with you. It’s just going to take one thing…

You.

You have to want it. You have to believe you can have it. You have to work at it.

If you weren’t close to your physical father, that may be a tall task. It may be hard to see God for the loving, nurturing Father that He is because you may be superimposing qualities of your dad onto Him. If everything you think you know about fathers was shaped by the one who raised you (or didn’t) then it’s going to be tough to get past that.

My dad wasn’t much of a talker when I was child. We could travel for hours in the same vehicle without any conversation. So, it’s taken me many years to open up to my Heavenly Father. I just wasn’t used to talking and I didn’t know how to open up. I didn’t see the value in it. I didn’t think He’d want to listen.

What it’s taken me years to learn is that He’s always been there, waiting for me to realize it, waiting for me to just start talking. I didn’t mind listening to Him (reading the Bible) but I wasn’t holding up my end of the relationship at all.

There’s an innate truth about relationships: the more time and effort you put into them, the greater the intimate bond that’s formed.

If it were written as an equation, it would look like this:

Time + effort = Intimate bond

There’s no shortcut to intimacy. Much like a bank account, you can’t expect great returns without making regular deposits.

Six ways you need God

If you want a loving Father/Daughter relationship unlike anything you’ve ever had, then you have to do your part. He’s there. He’s always been there. He’s waiting…for you.

Yes, it may be difficult.

Yes, it will take time.

Yes, you may not know how.

The great thing is, God doesn’t place qualifiers on your ability to spend time with Him. He just invites you to do it—imperfectly, at first. But you’ll get better over time, because He will teach you how.

Why bother? You need your Father.

Here’s why:

1. You need to know how much you matter to Him. 

Best friends become best friends because they grow to love each other. God already loves you (1 John 3:1).  Knowing that—really knowing it—affects everything you think, feel and do. It has the ability to change your life in a profound way—an intentional way.

2. You need to know that He has a plan for you.

“For I know the thoughts I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”  (Jeremiah 29:11)

How exhausting is it to need all the answers, all the time? You don’t. When you let God , reveal what He wants for your life, instead of trying to make what you (or others) want happen, then—and only then—can positive changes occur in your life. Those changes become the catalyst for other changes. It can be hard to let go of control…but so refreshing and peaceful when you do.

3. You need His love, mercy, compassion, peace of mind, forgiveness.

The best part about having God for your best friend is knowing that no matter what, He loves you and wants the world for you. He supports you in hard times, forgives your weaknesses and flaws and is right by your side celebrating your successes.

God is always there for you.

Having God as your best friend takes friendship to the highest of heights. Not only is He there for you on all counts, but He also has the power to give you things that your human friendships can’t. He can actually remove the stain of sin that taints your life—that traps you in its dark, guilt-ridden recesses and keeps you from reaching out to God. His forgiveness is far more meaningful and life-changing. His mercy and compassion are bottomless. And the peace of mind that comes from surrendering to Him fully produces true happiness (Psalm 63:1-4).

4. You need His protection from dangerous situations.

“For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.”  (Ephesians 6:12)

There are dark, spiritual forces at work. You can’t see them, but they’re very real (I Peter 5:8). You also need protection from your own natural tendencies that steer you wrong, and from the harm that others may unintentionally (or intentionally) cause you.

Putting on God’s protection is like getting dressed in the morning. You wouldn’t consider leaving home naked, but there’s a spiritual nakedness that leaves you vulnerable and open for attack (Ephesians 6:13-18).

5. You need His healing, for physical and emotional aches.

You’ve fallen off your bike for the first time and scraped your knee. Tears are welling in your eyes. But here comes daddy to scoop you up in his arms, kiss your wound and make you feel better. That’s what dads do…or should do.

Your Heavenly Father is no different in His desire to comfort you and He has the power to remove those hurts…completely. It doesn’t matter what type of hurt you suffer: chronic, terminal, self-inflicted or trauma-based. God can handle them all. That doesn’t mean, of course, that just because you ask He’ll take them all away. Sometimes, in His infinite wisdom, He knows you need to hurt for some greater purpose that you just can’t see right now. Trust Him. Let Him scoop you up and hold you in His lap and let you cry for a while, until you are able to see that purpose—His purpose.

6. You need to know that no matter how short you fall from perfection He loves you.

There is nothing you can do that will ever make God stop loving you—ever. That doesn’t mean He’s always proud of your choices, or that there won’t be consequences attached to them. It means that no matter what you’ve done, what you will do, God’s love is unswerving. He’ll always be waiting for you with open arms, ready for you to climb back into His lap (Romans 8:38-39).

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How can you draw closer to God?

Start your day with Him

Your relationship with God needs to be planned.
Set aside 5, 10 or 15 minutes (if that’s all you have) in the morning to pray and do some reading in your Bible. Increase that time as you find it.

Starting the day off with God is an acknowledgment that you need Him to be with you through the day: to guide your thoughts and actions, to keep you safe, to help you in all the ways you need help. But make time throughout your day for Him as well.

There are lots of opportunities to converse with God:

  • In the shower

  • On a walk

  • While exercising

  • Standing in line

  • Stuck in traffic

  • Lying in bed at night

  • While commuting to work via bus/train/subway

There are also different ways to converse:

  • Talking out loud, or silently

  • Reading the Bible

  • Listening to an audio Bible

  • Keeping a prayer journal

  • Silently meditating (thinking) about ways God has blessed you or answered your prayers

  • Singing songs of praise to God

  • Keeping a journal of things you are grateful to God for

  • Writing out a scripture that speaks to you and then journaling about the impact it has/has had on your life

While distracted prayer isn’t the most effective, finding different times of your day to talk to God cultivates the habit of sharing yourself with Him and building that relationship.

Be reverent

He’s the God of the universe. He knows everything, sees everything, can do anything (except sin). He loves you, but He also wants you to keep things in perspective and be respectful (Proverbs 1:7)! You may not understand Him fully, or understand why He does or allows certain things. Tell Him that. Share your confusion, your frustration, your hurt, your fears with Him. He knows them already, but it’s an important part of building a relationship with Him.

Take time to listen

God speaks to you in various ways. The two most obvious ways are through His Word, the Holy Bible, and through His Holy Spirit. He answers prayers, and He also uses people in your life to give you guidance. God’s thoughts and ways are not like yours or mine, however (Isaiah 55:8). He doesn’t always respond in ways that we want or according to our own agenda. His perspective is very different (Psalm 90:4).

End your day with Him

Take some time at the end of each day to talk with God about how the day went. What went well? What didn’t? Can you identify ways that God gave you direction or guidance?

Whatever false messages you’ve been told from other fathers, this one rings true:

God cares deeply for you. He always has and He always will.

 

6 Comments

  1. Mina on February 21, 2019 at 4:05 pm

    Super great well written Debbie !!!! ❤️ Love this article can’t wait for more ❤️❤️

    • Debbie Pierce on February 21, 2019 at 4:49 pm

      Thank you so much Mina! I loved writing this…it helped ME to write it, and I’m glad it resonated with you as well.

  2. Debbie Pierce on February 21, 2019 at 4:49 pm

    Thank you so much Mina! I loved writing this…it helped ME to write it, and I’m glad it resonated with you as well.

  3. Nikita on February 22, 2019 at 7:55 am

    A beautifully written piece of encouragement. Excellent timing. thank you!

  4. Karen Smeed on February 22, 2019 at 10:07 am

    Wonderful article!

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